I once said to a Lifestyle Retreat client of mine who had the very rare chance of living with me for 2 and a half weeks that to understand one’s system is to understand the man who created it.
I’ve been a mentor to over several hundred people over the past 8 years, and I always find time to share some of the quotes and sayings I live by to them. It’s important to do so because having sayings like these mentally program you and set you up for success. Today I’ll share some of my absolute favorites and I hope you guys take these to heart. If you like what you’ve read please do comment below and I’ll write up more in the following weeks.
Here are two great principles to live by:
“Perfect is imperfect. Imperfect is perfect.”
I love this one the most, simply because living by this quote totally takes off the pressure of getting that “perfect” everything. That also means trying to find the perfect things to say or do when interacting with women or people. The more I accepted that I am imperfect and so are others, I flowed more into conversations easily because I wasn’t pressuring myself to find those words.
More importantly, and a lot of guys don’t think about this, is that trying to find the perfect things to say also puts unneeded pressure on others. I mean what do you say to a “perfect” line anyways? Thank you? Cool? It’s not even relatable to begin with! It’s the imperfect things that people relate to the most when it comes to conversations. Whenever I’m into conversations with strangers I try to ease in (in a jokingly positive manner) that little nuances I had today, the mistakes I made, the misread, misunderstood things I said that made the old lady over the counter think I was hitting on her.
The more people expect you to be perfect, the more you should show signs of imperfection. It’s so counterintuitive but its true. When you put up a facade and an ego-block to others by having some sort of untouchable reputation, it pushes people away and makes them just watch you from a distance. BUT, if there is an expected reputation of you and you show signs that you are approachable, and kind, and friendly and that you’re not afraid of talking about your mistakes or other little things, people will flock towards you because you’re THAT comfortable to be around.
On the Macro-Mindset end:
Life is a blend of successes, failures, awesome times, road blocks, lucky breaks, unforeseen problems and opportunities. They are all a GIVEN IN LIFE so might as well embrace them. Nobody every gets a perfect run and actually the guys who don’t get the perfect run are the ones that succeed the most in the long run. Why? Because having an imperfect run teaches three things: It allows you to understand your weaknesses more and build on them, it allows you to appreciate the good times more because you know its never always going to be that way all the time, AND it prepares you to not even see the negative things in your life as negative: they’re all just learning opportunities.
“The Thing that Will Set you Free is the very thing that is hiding underneath what you fear most…”
I LOVE this quote, and this is for guys who think big, dream big, and win big. If this is you, then read along because living by this quote will launch your potential into motion NOW.
I think that beyond marketing hype, magic-pills-don’t-work realizations, and what not, men do finally realize that the hard road is really the most fulfilling one to take in the end.
The key is to decide to not live in mediocrity. The vampires in this business thrive on making men think that they can get the results of mediocre people by some trick in the book or some cheat code, but the fact is, the more you see yourself as a mediocre guy with cheat codes, the more you’ll lose respect for yourself, and that’s the end of you.
When you lose self-respect, you lose self-esteem and you will start subconsciously devaluing yourself. You won’t see yourself as someone worth it. You won’t see yourself as someone worth being with. I’ve seen many, many cool, worth-it guys come to me that I’d recommend to my girl friends in a heartbeat mess things up in the field simply because a “better woman” intimidated them and they didn’t think they were good looking enough for her despite her being interested!
When I see guys stutter, stammer, sound boring, and always run out of things to say, usually its deeply rooted to the fact that they don’t find themselves interesting enough. And the root of that? They probably have a lifestyle that THEY THEMSELVES do not value!
The key is to lose this “underdog mentality” and get used to always taking the tough road head on.
Why do you think we mentally program our clients to do this early? The reality is that to become 24/7 Attractive you will have to face your big fear: That you can’t stay lazy and you’ll have to get up off your ass everyday and do something about improving your overall lifestyle. People don’t want to hear this of course. They want to hear that there’s some insta-pill to fix all that, and wonder why the world has always been the way it is for centuries: Men that put in the hard work and face their fears head on get the biggest prize. Men that take the easier path live in mediocrity.
Many of you are my actual friends, and know that I put hours and hours and hours in the gym when I work out. I do so humbly and quietly, then in the end the body transformation happens and everyone goes “whoah.” That didn’t come by easy, guys. I had to take the hard road and work my ass off to get there.
Same with lifestyle – have the mentality of an energizer bunny – sleep is for the wicked. Have a busy lifestyle filled with things to do and goals to accomplish. Treat every hour like gold and make sure you can pull productive hours every waking moment of your day. Look, for the past month I’ve pulled back to back summits, lifestyle retreats, AND once I got back to the States, I immediately flew out the next day to LA to do a Masterclass, AND when I got back I worked the COC’s AND worked out to no end to get my muscle mass back from my food poisoning thing 2 weeks ago… AND I’m training my MMA fighter every 2 PM for his December 2 fight.
Being a Manny Pacquiao fan, it’s hard for me to admit this, but I am a big fan of Mayweather’s saying, “Hard Work… Dedication… hard work… dedication….”
It’s crazy. It’s tough, but there are benefits here that affect ME mentally, and if you have this lifestyle it will affect yours in a totally positive way. It will affect your mindset, your self-worth, your self-esteem, and that is something that people will SENSE from you immediately. I always tell my clients, people can sniff value from others instinctively – I don’t mean money or material things – I mean self-value. That is why we don’t really seek reactions. The reactions come to us.
Alright, that’s it for now. If you enjoyed my brand-new “quotes to live by” post and you want more, PLEASE COMMENT BELOW that you want more and I’ll write more of my life quotes for you… maybe weekly or bi-weekly.
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