24/7 Attractive Man

The One Verbal Technique to Avoid Self Sabotage for Good

Hey, it’s Troy again,

I’m writing this today because I’ve had several conversations with my friends and clients about “Self Sabotage.”

Being 24/7 Attractive, not during the morning/afternoon/evening “only” attractive is a pretty tall order. It will take a ton of work if you don’t directly address what’s stopping you.

Unfortunately not everyone is mentally tuned to just achieve this ASAP, and some will hit various road blocks and plateaus of self-doubt along the way. Most men don’t think very highly of themselves and in turn the won’t value themselves enough to get a great girl.

So what’s keeping you in the “mortal” zone and stopping you from getting to Social Demigod status?

What’s keeping you from putting yourself out there to increase a little bit more emotional intimacy in your relationships?

Your Perception of Yourself

Take my buddy Perseus, who finds out at the age of 20 that he’s the demigod son of the Omnipotent bad-ass of the universe, Zeus.

When he found out that he had the inherent power to kick mortal and underworld butt, even he couldn’t come to terms with it immediately. To himself, he was nothing but a fisherman, to other people they saw him as their salvation in a time of desperate need.

Now imagine how much he thought about sabotaging himself even without a lot of obstacles – he didn’t have any lousy, low quality, crab mentality people who constantly doubted him. Matter of fact almost all the characters in that book believed in him and yet he still thought about quitting!

Even his own dad, Zeus, kept convincing him – shipping him he-man swords, shields, crazy flying unicorns and a hot priestess babe bi-weekly through the Olympus Postal Service.

So if you have the constant urge to self sabotage yourself, I wouldn’t say 100% of this is on you, because half of it goes to how people treat you.

Since most of my well-attended to clients become my friends, I figured out a trend in their backgrounds that lead to them second guessing all the time.

Their Self-Sabotaging Habit was not built in a day: It came from parents, authorities (like your boss, school principal, PE teacher) and long-time friends like buddies from elementary school or co-workers.

Believe it or not, strangers play a very little part in why you’re not confident. Truth is, you don’t care about them at all because they don’t know you. If a bum selling Cigarettes down the street calls you a failure it doesn’t make a dent,  but when people you deeply love and care about say it, it TOTALLY kills your confidence. Even if its a sarcastic joke, it just echoes further than if some Joe nobody said it.

Oh, and they don’t mean it, it’s COMPLETELY “subconscious.”

Notice that with these characters there’s one common thing: They are all people you’ve known longer than others. None of them are casual friends and are the consistent ones you interact with day in and day out.

Most of them have seen you from when you first walked, to growing your first facial hair, to when you decided to pick up a guitar and did it lousy, to when you tried out for the track team but fell short because you were too slow. “They” know you as a certain “persona” in a certain period of time, and when you attempt to change it, they’ll DRAG YOU RIGHT BACK because they’re familiar with it.

It’s funny how they say they wish the best for you then when you attempt to change they don’t want you to leave.

If you were once an awkward person and you decide to undo that, they’ll call you a try-hard…

If you were once a follower and decided to make a conscious decision to lead they’ll downplay you…

If you used to be introverted and decide to be social they’ll say you’re desperate…

If you’re a physically weaker person and decide to pick up some weights they’ll sarcastically start calling you “tough guy” or “macho man…”

As you can see, being deeply linked to people who know about your past, will make it VERY HARD to get out because they expect you to be the same guy today, tomorrow and in the future.

So, the FIRST STEP is to deal with those people first, and either ditch them or have a conversation with them about how you want to be treated.

Now I don’t suggest you ditch your parents or friends or your job, even if I ditched my friends back in High School. The first alternative is to have a chat with them and use what I’m going to give you below, WORD FOR WORD.

Here it goes:

“(NAME), first off I want to thank you for being part of my life. I value you a lot and I have to share to you my plans for the future… (share plans – I want to become a leader, more physically fit, more social). And as my friend/boss/family member that I truly treasure in my life, I expect you to love and support me in this change.”

This is Pure Magic I tell you. This one phrase that my mentor taught me when I was 22 years old made all the difference in how people around me accepted change.

Now if they still treat you like crap, then they’re definitely ditch material and you better leave them before things go haywire. But if they DO support you after this, you’re on your way to unshakable inner confidence.

When you put your foot down and decide that there’s a certain level of respect that should be given you, things will gradually start to get better.

Now you won’t have a pool of doubters within people in your OWN team, and instead a group of cheerleaders. More importantly these are the REAL people  you care about versus some chick at the bar who said your hat is ugly. Between them and some random brunette, who would you listen to?

At this point you can understand why our organization is a global brotherhood and why our clients are not just another number to us. As our like minded clients become our valued friends, we mutually support and motivate each other in all the changes that will come our way, even if it gets off at a bumpy start. That is the true core of what 24/7 AM stands for.

And if you need a solid point person for your support system, read my Philosophy on Mentoring and you’ll see why I’m the right man for the job.

Try this out as soon as possible guys. I’d love to hear about the feedback you’ll get from your loved ones and you can share that by commenting below.

To Success, Change and Perpetual Motion!

Troy

PS: One of our friends who applied this just now showed me a great idea.

Instead of chatting people up one on one, he made a Facebook note fashioned on the verbiage I just gave you and literally tagged all his loved ones. Quite frankly I never thought of doing that and I must say that was pretty smart so if you’re into the whole Facebook thing and  you want to mass announce your act of boldness, this is a good way of doing it. Less than a few hours in and I’ve seen some INCREDIBLE feedback.

Check it out:

Mad, mad props buddy. Now you know who your true friends are and now you’ve got the breathing space to do what you want with your life. Step One Complete!

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