Dating conservative women is something that a lot of men want to ask about but rarely gets any air time in the dating community. Many have the idea of the stunning, model-type girl as the type of women to go for with the skills they learn here, but the unspoken truth is that almost 85% of beginners in this game would prefer dating a conservative girl to begin with, and for good reason.
Why I Wanted Conservative Women in the First Place:
When I started and I wasn’t that good with women I too had the idea that maybe the best place to start was to get conservative women first. They’re cute, always smiling, and would probably make nice trophy girlfriends, I said to myself. Back then I didn’t have the power of choice, so I thought that was truly the best option. Heck, I was surrounded by friends who were conservative women. Given my limited skills, I thought that out of all the types of girls in the world, I had better chances with these types of women. There was no way I could get the popular girls nor the cheerleaders back then; it felt like they were so out of reach.
I still remember going gaga over this one girl (that the other geeks went gaga for). She was one of the top girls in the class who had a charming smile. It almost felt like “unlocking her” was the goal for me. She wasn’t outspoken at all and was always busy (maintaining her very high grades at school) and that made me mesmerized because I thought at the time that having such high grades was so attractive. Nowadays book smart only women turn me off completely. Of course, I failed in getting her (competing with the geeks), and eventually had evolved into “2002″ Troy Dizon who was able to get better women. I stopped looking for conservative girls for a good two years, and during that time dating “grown up” street smart women I learned to be dominant, outspoken, exciting, etc. etc.
After my “player years” of 2002-2004 I decided to settle with a “good girl” to avoid all the drama and unpredictability of the world I was in. As always I turned to none other than cute conservative girls for options. At this time I already had some success with women, so getting another conservative girl was easy: I just became my usual outspoken and action-packed self, and it was in the bag. I found one that was prettier, smarter, and well.. maybe a bit more vocal than the rest of the pack. She also had a nice, shapely body which was a bonus on top of everything.
A Change of Heart
A few months later, my interest for conservative women died out. I was dead bored. I was always expected to start a conversation, introduce some new lifestyle activity, and well, the sex was pretty dull. It was almost like I was training my own girlfriend, it seemed. I loved the feeling of getting mutual agreement from women, but having it done all the time was not exciting at all. Life with her became such a routine filled with basically the same activities and rarely new, unpredictable ones. A few weeks after we had broken it off and I had met someone who had the looks, was smart, sexy, BUT someone who had a stronger, multi dimensional character, that was it for me. The energy was different, the conversations were different… more importantly SHE had a lot to contribute to the relationship, in terms of fresh new things to do, people to meet, and so on and so forth. I never looked back from that point.
THE VERDICT: It was Really about ME in the First Place
I found out that getting conservative women was just a way for me to feel good about myself because I felt more dominant when I was with them. Way back then I was an insecure, weak guy and like many who take our programs now,I thought that the first step to get a level higher was to get a woman that was “lower,” in the form of conservative women. Yes, it feels great for a moment, but trust me when I say the feeling dies out. When it dies out, you’ll be wondering how the heck you can get a better girl with the skill set that you didn’t develop over that time period.
I just finished a live camp recently and my client (an Asian) himself later realized that most conservative women basically have nothing much to offer, other than that momentary “feeling” of dominance when he’s with them. Outside of that he was the same weak guy that could not assert himself if the women he met were not conservative. He was also constantly intimidated by outgoing and assertive women (and men). It was just his comfort zone, and that wasn’t helpful at all.
So what’s my take on dating conservative women? If you’re young, do it momentarily. Get it off your system if you just need that couple of months to lead and feel dominant, but don’t buy into the illusion. Being with a conservative woman for so long will eventually stunt your growth process. What is best is to find someone that is a little bit of both worlds: she’s a good girl, but she can also be refreshingly daring. Challenge yourself. You deserve more than that.
If you feel what I’m saying or if you agree or disagree with what I’m saying, feel free to comment on this post below. I’d love to know what you think.
PS: The new SINGAPORE Masterclass is up on the live program schedule for 2012, specifically on March 9-11. While I expect having it easy with the conservative girls over there (more “doing nothing” lol), I expect my clients there to get the proper training in having solid interactions with women who are more assertive, sexy and street smart.
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